Archive for May, 2009

What to Wear on a First Date

Deciding what to wear for your first date should be as important as deciding what you’re going to wear to an interview because, let’s face it, that’s really what a first date is (but with cocktails!). The motto ‘first impressions count’ really carries weight in the dating world!

But before you get your panties or boxers in a knot, realize that you don’t have to go out and spend a thousand dollars to make a good impression. It’s all about what you want to convey to your date.

Think about your personality and what you like to do. If you are sportier don’t be afraid to show it! If you’re classic casual let it show! Fashion can speak as much about your personality as you want but remember to always keep it tasteful. No one wants to go on a date with a guy wearing sweats and a baseball jersey but it is important to show the other person who you are.

Another thing to consider is where you are going on this date. Wouldn’t it be awkward to meet your date at the movies and she’s wearing a tiny dress and heels? Or heading to a classy restaurant only to see your date sitting there wearing shorts! Movies generally call for casual dress, say jeans and a casual shirt – this look works for both men and women. Dinner dates can mean slightly more dressed up clothing depending on where you go, say dress pants and a casual shirt for men or jeans and heels for women. And most importantly when dating either online or not remember to be yourself, be confident and have fun with your fashion!

Online Dating Industry Becomes Safer in the US

The US online dating industry is welcoming a new supporting member with open arms. SweetheartChecks.com is website that specializes in doing criminal background checks for those that are looking to inquire about the status of their potential significant other. The website keeps and controls current and up to date files on all criminals and sex offenders in the US in order to provide peace of mind to those meeting people through online dating networks.

This will be a great addition to the online sector as many feel slightly uneasy when meeting a person over the internet and are uncertain of their true intentions and are sometimes rightfully skeptical to believe everything that they read on their screen- especially since many of the times people seem to sound too good to be true.

The online dating industry is continuing to grow at a constant rate and projections in the online community say that this is only the beginning of a developing industry.

While this new website cannot stop people from lying about their identity or keeping other secrets it can prevent some previous offenders from getting involved with innocent people if they do in fact disclose their real identities.

There are sure to be further advance from minds just like these to further increase the safety of online daters and those using the internet for other personal transactions and communication purposes.

Online Dating Optimism

There is something that many don’t consider when it comes to online dating; Online dating is not a guaranteed way to meet someone that is going to be your absolute soul mate- it is simply another convenient method to help aid in that goal.

Many create a profile on an online dating website and truly believe that this is a formula for meeting a soul mate. This is not always the case. Like getting set up by friends, there are several outcomes that may result. Yes, you may fall deeply in love with the first person that you meet and you may be very lucky together in the future but chances are that you will need to go through several experiences before this happens so you must remain optimistic throughout the process.

Everyone (or at least most) on the online dating site are there for the same reason as you, they would like to meet someone to start and continue a relationship with. But with many different personalities, the chances of the first being a complete match is highly unlikely.

If you keep a positive attitude and start fresh with everyone that you meet online or otherwise then you will be much more likely to have an unbiased approach and meet the person that you have been dreaming about all along!

Relationships and Friendships

There is something that every woman should know before getting into a serious relationship, just like every girl needs her group of girlfriends every guy needs his group of friends as well. This is something that is very important that some women seem to forget when they get caught up in all the attention that they may want from their man at any given time.

Of course you will be a priority and of course they will think about you when they are not with you but you will need to give them their time without you once in a while too. It is great to want to spend all your time together but making a man ditch his friends is changing him and if you like the person he was when you met then chances are that his friends were a solid part of the reason he is the way he is.

When relationships grow and people get married, families come first and friends sometimes move to the back burner, while this is not the worst thing in the world it is always a good idea to find a fine balance so that everyone in the relationship is happy.

Having friends is important to both sides of the relationship and to the couple as well. The more close people that surround you the happier you will be and the bigger circle of support you will have. Remember, everything is okay in moderation- so if you can have a life with balance from the start then you are on your way to happy life together.

Meeting Someone When You Least Expect It

There is a reason that there is a saying “Things happen when you least expect it” and the same goes for meeting that special someone. Some people put all their efforts and energy into finding that special person to spend the rest of their lives with but the truth is sometimes it is okay to take a little break and wait for that special person to come along.

If you are not focusing your efforts solely on meeting a person than you may be likely to do other things that you enjoy and perhaps run into a person that you never planned on meeting. This could happen online while in a chat room or even when you are taking your dog for a walk.

It is said that if you focus all the time on meeting someone you may be masking your true self and turning away people that could have been a great match for you. If you try to simply stay true to yourself and make time to enjoy the things you love than love will find you.

Chances are you won’t be alone forever, so it is okay to take time off from finding that special someone here and there but if you are looking for a good way to meet someone quickly than going online and creating an online dating profile is a good idea. But keep in mind you may need to meet a few special someone’s before you find the perfect one!

Love at Work

So here is a topic that is often whispered or not even discussed: relationships at work. There are no particular set rules of what to do or not to do with regards to matters of the heart at your place of employment. But one thing is definitely for sure, if there is talk of a relationship in the office everyone there will know about it!

So what should you do if a love affair should begin to fluster between you and a co-worker? Here are a few things that should help you keep it straight and keep your job.

The number one rule is to keep it professional. If you wouldn’t talk a certain way to any other co-worker do not talk that way to the person you are dating either. That means no pet names, no secret meetings, private phone calls or anything else that may be in the gray area.

Also, it may be a good idea to keep it a secret until you are sure that this person has real potential. If you date someone and then it doesn’t work out there will surely be a thread of rumors that will be hard to quiet and better kept personal from the get go.

Another thing to consider, as much as you may trust your best friend at work, if you are going to tell one person you may as well tell them all. Rumors and juicy gossip have a way of slipping out. Whether its on purpose or completely by accident its not great to be the center of bad attention so either keep it to yourself or don’t keep it a secret at all.

Things that you should never talk about on a First Date

There are a few things that are great table talk on a first date such as the weather, the politics and maybe even the gossip about the latest Hollywood couple. But there are a few things that specialist suggest stays off the table for the first few dates and perhaps even the next few thereafter.
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Things that are not up for discussion, are as follows; your previous relationships! This a big no-no, do not compare and do not discuss, no one wants to know why they are better or why they don’t add up to the ex.

Your sex life! If you are hoping this person likes you and you would like to see them again on anything other than an intimate level than perhaps its best to keep it as clean as possible. A first kiss is not out of the question but talking about what you like in the better is better kept until you actually know your partners shoe size.

Also, do not discuss marriage, even if the date is going really well and you have a feeling that you are soul mates, it’s probably better just to let the relationship grow and make sure that you are both on exactly the same page before announcing that you think they are the one for you.

Simply keep in mind that you are meeting this person for the first time and chances are they would like to keep it as simple as possible the first time around so if you think something would rub you the wrong way if you heard it from a stranger than chances are it would rub them the wrong way too.