online dating

Getting Over The Online Talking Tone

What in the world are we talking about when we say online talking tone?  What we mean by this is the way that you percieve someone sounds by reading their e-mails and electronic messages.  When you read an e-mail or a text message, your mind associates a voice and the way it sounds when you read it, as if the voice you make up is reading it to you.  This type of made up tone that your brain automatically makes up for you, can be totally off from what that person sounds like in real life.  Often times, when people meet in person or talk on the phone, there is an unusual lack of connection because both of you interpreted the e-mails as making you both sound different than how you really sound.  So what can you do to get over this?

The solution is simple, by simply talking to each other with your voices…. alot.  The more you talk to that person, the easier it is for your mind to replace the made up voice with their real voice when they start writing you  e-mails and as you continue to correspond via the internet.  This will make the transition from the made up voice to their real voice quick and easy.  If you cant talk to the person on a date or in person because of distance,  use the phone.  If the phone bills start adding up, start using a free voip service like Skype.  Heck, with Skype you can even look at their face while they are talking to you with a microphone and web cam all for free right in the comfort of your own home. 

No matter how you do it, the only way to get over this weird transition is by using your voice and talking to them.  This will make online dating much more enjoyable and allow you to get to know that person on a very different level than just being their electonic reader.  Start making a difference with your online communication by using your actual voice, trust us, it will work!

Fun Online Dating First Dates

Online dating is something that many people are doing these days.  Having the ability to be able to meet people  on line makes finding people much easier than it was in the past.  With all of the people on line, you are bound to find someone who is willing and wanting to go on a first date with you.  Many people who get this far, often wonder what type of activity or first date ideas are out there to help you connect with your date on a different level than just typing to each other on a keyboard.

The biggest thing to realize is that although you have been connecting and talking online, it is important to understand that the way you act and talk is going to be very different than how the person imagines the other person from their online converstaions.  Most people have a different typing tone than they do their actual talking tone, so this getting used to is always a weird obstacle on the first date when meeting an online dater for the first time. So when you meet that person for the first date, in your mind you need to make yourself think that you are meeting a brand new person as they will sound totally different from how they sound online.  Once you prepare yourself for this meeting, the next step is to actually do something fun with this person and call it a first date.

Some of the best first date ideas to follow when it comes to online dating is to pick an event to get yourselves talking.  This will help you get over that weird talking tone barrier and will cause you to forget how they even sound online.  Pick an activity like going to dinner or going to a place where you have to interact and play a game together.  Just going to a movie is never a good idea.  While the movie might be fun to see, you will never really get to talk to that person doing an activity like that, so it is a good idea to pick an activity where you can talk often.

How To Handle The Second Date

So you have made a good online dating profile, snatched a first date, and now its time for the second.  There are a lot of things that go into that second date that can make or break this newly started friendship.  The goal of the second date is to start moving from friendship to relationship status.  I’m not saying that you should be officially dating by the second date, but you definitely need to let each other know whether or not there is mutual interest and attraction.

Too often a second date is a pity date in which a person takes out another person just to be nice even though they aren’t interested.  That may have been the thing to do in the olden days, but if you aren’t interested in a person, don’t take them out again.  By taking them out again, you are just messing with their mind to make it harder for them to be able to just accept the fact that you aren’t into them. You can also give them the wrong impression that you are actually interested in them and it can lead to a bunch of drama and guilt.  The second date should be set up if you are genuinely interested in that person so that you can start getting to know them better.

Make sure you do something that was different from the first date when planning the second date.  Do a different activity that will cause your date to open up in other ways and show different skills or opinions.  This will help you to round them out and understand their personality better and with more understanding.  This type of understanding is a great tool when it comes to trying to figure out their personality and likes and dislikes.  Another thing to do on the second date is to pick activities that are fun and exciting.  Too often people plan a boring second date which totally kills the energy that the couple felt on the first date. This lack of feeling or excitement can kill the momentum that was going into the second date.  Don’t get caught up in this and just do the best job that you can when it comes to planning that second date.

Setting Up The First Date

Once you have finally found a person online who is interested in you, it is time to actually have that first date with that person.  This date is where you will make that first impression and be able to see if there is any chemistry between you and this person.  There are a few rules of dating that need to be followed when setting up this first date.  We will go over a few items that should be covered when you are thinking about going out on that first date.

The first thing is planning.  Give yourself and your date enough time to prepare for it. Nothing is more annoying that to hurry and call up your date and ask them if they want to go out in an hour.  This gives the other person no time to prepare and will usually have them on edge and nervous throughout the whole date.  A good rule of thumb is to give a person at least 3 days notice of the actual date.  This will give them time to prepare, get things in order, and have a little bit of time to let the nerves settle down.  This in turn will make the date more productive as the person will better be able to be themselves and be less nervous and jumpy.

The second thing is to inform your date of what is going to happen.  This means if you are going out to dinner, make sure you let them know where so they can dress appropriately. Nothing can embarrass a date more than to be overdressed or under dressed for a certain occasion on the first date.  Also if you are doing a special type of activity like rock climbing or swimming, make sure you let your date know so they can bring the necessary items and clothing to fit the specific event.  This type of information sharing is very responsible and will just make for a better date in the long run.  Don’t fall into the trap of not giving your date needed information as it will most always result in a bust.

By following these tips, you will be better prepared to set up that first date and ultimately make it a success for both of you!

Writing Your Online Description

When dating online, it can be a little nerve racking when you try to figure out how to write your profile page. What do you put on there? Will what you put on there scare away potential dates? All of these questions and more are probably running through your head and it is probably difficult to understand what you should do. The biggest thing to remember is that you will get through this, and you can write a good profile that will show who you are and not scare away other potential daters.

The first thing to do when writing your profile page is to keep it simple.  Don’t go into detail about what years you went to college or who your professor was, just say that you graduated college and name the degree.  People online are pressed for time and its rare to have someone sit there and read the novel that is your profile page.  The key thing to think about when writing your profile page is to think about what the top things are about you that make you unique and special compared to other people.  Do you play an instrument, do you have special training, have you gone somewhere exotic, do you like extreme sports?  All of these types of things would be eligible to put on your profile page to ensure that someone that checks it out will find interest in the content that is provided.

The second thing is to make sure that you re-read your profile page over and over checking for writing mistakes.  Nothing is a bigger turn off for a reader than to have a horrible grammatical sentence or horrible spelling errors.  These types of things just make you look dumb, and no one wants to go on a date with a dummy.  Do yourself a favor and write the piece for your profile in Microsoft Word or some other word processing software to ensure sentence structure and spelling are correct.  This simple action will help you and save you from looking dumb when other people start reading your profile page.

We hope that some of these tips will help you in your assignment of writing a profile page when doing online dating.  Having a good solid profile page is important as it is the gateway that people use to see you for who you are.  Take the time needed to make your profile page a success!

Senior Singles

Senior singles

The world of online dating is a vast world indeed. There are millions of people who are looking to meet that special someone and who are using online dating services to do it. While you might think that they are strictly the younger generation, you might be surprised to know that the number of senior singles who are searching online has been steadily growing these past few years.

With the computer becoming a staple item in many people’s homes it has become an invaluable resource. Seniors have also caught on to this modern convenience and are utilizing it just as much as anyone. As they are becoming more and more proficient on the computer they are also learning how to access all the beneficial services as well. There are many senior singles who have found dating services and who have had great success.

An online dating service is ideal for a senior single for many reasons. The first reason is because of its’ convenience. You can’t beat the convenience of sitting at home, creating an online profile and getting into the online world of dating. This solves many problems that senior singles may have. For many it is not practical to try to go out and meet people. Some are confined to their homes; others don’t know where to begin to look for other singles to meet. With the convenience of dating online they no longer have to worry about how to meet someone or where to meet them at. They are able to browse through other senior’s profiles and try to find those that are most similar to them and at the same time will be able to start a meaningful relationship with them.

Another reason why it is ideal is because of its’ broad range of clientele. With so many people with so many backgrounds seniors will be able to find those that best compliment themselves and will be able to begin to interact with them. This can be the beginning of a wonderful new relationship.

While some senior singles may think that it is impossible for them to meet anyone new, many have found the services online to be extremely helpful. With many different sites offering many different services it would be nearly impossible to not find one that will be able to help you meet your goals that you have for yourself. Online dating can be the answer to most any problem that one may have when it comes to dating. If you will put in the time and effort you will be able to succeed.

Testing Your Profile

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Friends First

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Borders UK Launches Online Dating Site

A wise man once said “Tell me what you read, and I’ll tell you who you are”. Well, Borders UK is putting that old adage to the test. The popular bookseller has recently launched Happily Ever After, a new online dating service meant to pair up couples who share a love of reading.

Books are always a sure-fire conversation starter, and with Happily Ever After, you’ll never be at a loss for words. Borders UK’s goal is to bring together people with similar interests to take the difficulty of breaking the ice. Borders UK also makes use of its vast dating and self-help resources, promoting the latest and most popular books to hit shelves and help users in their search for love.

This is the latest development in a recent trend that sees more and more booksellers launching dating sites. Last year, Penguin joined with Match.com to create Penguin Dating, a free online dating service that also strives to pair singles based on their literary interests.

In upcoming weeks, users can sign up to Happily Ever After for only £1 a month. The low price will let people browse the site and check out all of the online dating features that Happily Ever After has to offer. After the initial test period, however, the monthly subscription price increases to £9.99. So, take advantage of the offer while its available for your chance to live Happily Ever After.